My Chemical Romance guitarist Frank Iero has shared an emotional and multifaceted tribute to former bandmate Bob Bryar, who was found dead at his home in Tennessee last week. In a long instagram mailIero said he had “spent the last few days” reflecting on Bryar as the “person I knew” and shared his memories of the drummer's commitment to the craft, his dark sense of humor and love of animals, as well as their eventual breakup. .
Describing Bryar as a “kind of enigma” who “often inhabited both ends of either spectrum at the same time,” Iero wrote that “he was my friend and my bandmate, but he was also a stranger to me for most of it.” of my life. However, the two were in intermittent contact after their shared time in the band, with Bryar checking up on Iero's family or exchanging “a meme or photos of Lego buildings” while letting each other read, followed by “a silence of indeterminate radius.” “
Iero added that Bryar was “incredibly talented” and “confident enough in his abilities to convince us that he was the right drummer for our band” without even hearing him play. At the same time, however, Bryar was “incredibly self-aware and introverted” outside of his comfort zone and capable of “trolling.”[ing] You hit yourself so hard I could cut you in half.
“Bob often became obsessed with things to the point of obsessiveness and liked to do things difficult,” Iero continued. As an example, he shared an anecdote about how Bryar “placed all of his drums horizontally so there were no angles pointing at him” while touring around the world. The black paradean uncomfortable position that caused injuries to his wrist.
Iero also wrote that Bryar was “sometimes the one I identified with the most” in the band because his “humor was as fucking dark as mine” and they could “laugh at our collective negativity without worrying that we might offend each other.” There was even talk of getting “semi-coincident tattoos” that said “Bob/Frank Hates ___” with the idea of filling them in every day “when we no doubt found something new that got on our nerves.”
Elsewhere in the tribute, Iero said Bryar “loved animals” and that the tragic death of his dog “destroyed him emotionally.” Unfortunately, Bryar “simply could no longer maintain his composure” after the incident and his “sadness, anger and distrust were too much to handle and took over every aspect” of his life.
Although Iero told Bryar that they could “devise a way to fix the situation or come up with a plan,” it was “too far away” and the “damage had already been done.” Bryar then “intentionally isolated himself” after leaving My Chemical Romance in 2010, “politely [making] “It is impossible” for Iero to visit him.
“I would really like to have ended the text conversation we had in September,” Iero concluded. “I hope you found some peace, BC. “I’m glad the universe is allowing me to get to know you for a while.”
Iero's remembrance of Bryar follows My Chemical Romance's shared tribute to their former drummer, in which they described him as “an important part” of the band's history.
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